Vaughn & Gail

About Us

Thank you for viewing our profile. We know how lucky we are to have a loving and trusting relationship, and that is the number one thing we want to share with an adoptive child. Though we have our serious side as a couple, we are more often silly and upbeat, taking life in stride and not taking ourselves too seriously.  Simple spur of the moment trips to get a light bulb or pick up a missing grocery list item become adventures.  We even created a ridiculous Buffalo “adventure” song that we sing as we embark. We are outgoing people—we met in an airport! Our hope is to care for your child and share our love for people and sense of adventure with them.  Having moved from the South (where most of our family still lives), we both love the City and what it offers, especially the diversity, the food, the parks, the culture, and the arts.  We make deep friendships with people from all walks of life. Now, having developed a tight-knit circle of mutual friends in NYC from our churches, schools, and communities, these friends are our “family” here in the City.


About Vaughn

Job
Self-employed Corporate Attorney

Hobbies
Triathlons, Weightlifting, Chess and all things in the Marvel Universe

Fun Fact
Vaughn was close to becoming a professional rugby player for the United States team.


About Gail

Job
Professor of Early Childhood Education

Hobbies
Biking, Singing, Reading, Running and Leading prayer at Church

Fun Fact
Gail ran the entire 2014 NYC marathon with someone she met two weeks prior at a group run.


Our Lives

We are active and always learning. With flexible schedules, we get involved in our community, join organizations, and participate in all kinds of social events. We are in book clubs and active in our churches. Vaughn is board chairperson for an off-Broadway theater (though he has never acted!), and he sang in his church choir for years. Gail is an education researcher and leads prayer at her church. She enjoys writing and advocating for teachers and children. In warmer weather, we do weekend “BRBs” together—Bike to Central Park, Run in Central Park, then Bike home. We have fun with our friends and their children (playing chess, video games, etc.) and enjoy hosting kid-friendly parties and dinner parties. Neither of us will ever have a problem staying busy or being interested in a child’s questions, learning with and from them, or doing activities that they want to do.


Our Family

Gail’s family is large and lives in western North Carolina. She has three older brothers and 12 nieces and nephews. Her parents have been married for 55 years. She calls and texts them regularly. Vaughn’s family is smaller and spread out across the U.S. We visit them twice a year. Our closest family member, Vaughn’s cousin, visits us often: we go on walks, play games, and watch movies. Our primary “family” is made up of friends in New York and across the US—a mix of race/ethnicities, nationalities, and religions. Every August, we travel to Maine with Vaughn’s college roommates and their families (about 25 people, including eight children and young adults) and stay on a lake boating, paddle boarding, swimming, and making s’mores. Weekly routines include Gail’s friends from church, graduate school, and teaching. Our upbeat “chosen” family will provide a safe environment to build a positive adoptive-child identity.


Closing Thoughts

Thank you so much for visiting our page. We accept and respect that we cannot understand the magnitude of choosing adoption from your perspective, but given our love for people, we are genuine in our belief that this is an opportunity to build—with you and your child—something beautiful over time, together. We want to be open and honest with you and always keep you informed. We think it is vital to the child’s healthy identity formation to know the birth mother, and we cannot wait to meet you!
Vaughn & Gail

To learn more about this Waiting Family or the adoption planning process, call us at 800-321-5683 or email us at helpline@spence-chapin.org.